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Happy Hour For Your Lips Giveaway

 

 

If there is one thing I am absolutely crazy about, it is makeup and cocktails. Lip Elixirs has combined my love of both!

 

Lip Elixirs (www.LipElixirs.com) are the total balm forneglected and abused lips everywhere. Created for both men and women, Lip Elixirs is an all-natural line of lip balms in a variety of mouthwatering cocktail flavors including Mimosa, Mojito, Vanilla Bourbon, Sassafras and Chocolate Martini.

 

They are created with an infusion of essential oils and kukui nut oil, aloe and cocoa butters. I thought this would be like any other lip balm, but when I put it on….DIVINITY!

 

It’s smooth and literally melts into your lips, but is not greasy and heavy. I’m now never without my tin of Lip Elixirs (I have Mimosa). Since I’ve used it, I’ve noticed a big difference in the texture and softness of my lips. This is perfect for getting your lips soft and perfect for kissing and pictures, as well as protecting them from the sun, cold and/or stress of biting or hot drinks.

I’m sharing the wealth! I’ve got a delicious tin of Chocolate Martini Lip Elixir that I am giving away to a special luxeling. Leave a comment below with your favorite lip gloss/glass/stick color for a chance to win. I’ll announce the winner next Monday, April 11th!

 

PS– you’ll thank me for it!

 

 

Apr 01 2011

Why Wedding Coordination Costs “So Much”

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I have noticed that many couples don’t understand the importance of wedding coordinators and some wedding planning professionals have cut wedding coordination out of their list of services altogether.  As such, it seems that many brides and grooms fail to appreciate the role of a wedding coordinator and their costs– as I have heard things said like:

  • “I only need someone for the day. Can’t you just come on the day of?”
  • “I’m a type-A personality and highly detailed so I enjoy the planning, so I don’t really need a lot of help”
  • “We’ve done all of our planning and have about $400 left for a coordinator”

 

Now, this isn’t the norm– but with the economy’s downturn, people had become very creative with their inquiries and excuses.  So when they hear that wedding day of coordination could cost thousands, they are shocked.  Let’s clear up some misconceptions:

 

First, no one is just “showing up” on the day of your wedding to coordinate it.  That’s not day of coordination. That’s damage control.  This is much like you going into a doctor’s office and saying, “I don’t need you to do any tests on me, I’m pretty smart and really detailed.  So, what I’m going to need you to do is just show up at the operating room and do the surgery for me”.  You basically want the doctor to do a procedure “cold”, without knowing anything about your medical history, predispositions, or the medical team of nurses, anesthesiologists, etc. you’ve secured.   The same is said for clients who expect wedding planners and coordinators to do the same thing.  It is expected that the clients want someone to appear a few hours before the ceremony, set up a few place cards, fluff the peonies, tell your grandmother when to walk and cue you when to cut the cake.  That is truly the watered down version of what a wedding coordinator does.  That is only what you see.

 

It takes more than one day to coordinate a wedding.  Truth be told, it takes anywhere to 4 to 6 weeks to coordinate ONE day.  Those weeks consists of pulling together logistics, reviewing the event team’s contracts to confirm responsibiities and obligations, contacting your bridal party to make sure they know their duties and needed locations, finalizing payments, scheduling load-ins and strikes, creating timelines, event layouts, seating charts and more.  By the time your wedding day rolls around, your coordinator will have put in at least 8 hours on your wedding. I’ve heard many brides laugh and say, “Oh, I don’t need all of that”.  I laugh right back and say “Of course you don’t. But your caterer and photographer does…” It’s your job to be the bride, so there are many details that you may not have thought of.

 

Think of it as major motion picture company finding the right movie director for their new hot blockbuster.  While a movie producer finds the talent, supervises and controls the funding, and other important duties.  The parallel would be your full service wedding planner.  The movie director is the person who directs the making of the film.  They control the artistic and dramatic aspects, and work to visualize the script while guiding the technical crew and actors in the fulfillment of that vision. That, my friend, is your wedding coordinator.  You supply the vision, they make sure that everyone else is on the same page so that the vision can come to fruition.  With something as important as a blockbuster movie, as an investment, the motion picture company would never bring in a director on the day of a final shoot.  Directors are hired early enough to get a feel for the film so that they know it like the backs of their hand.  This allows them to know which cameras need to be where, The location of boom mics, pans and zooms and so much more.  Again, the same is said of your wedding coordinator.  S/he is able to see your event before it happens, making it possible to avoid pitfalls, timing clashes between vendors and other important factors.

 

So this is why wedding coordination “costs” so much.  The experience, commitment and savvy your coordinator brings your wedding is an asset and benefit to your event as a whole.  I’ll tell you the same thing I tell my team before each and every wedding: there are no do overs.  While you may be extremely detailed, a planner by nature or profession, or have a really good friend or Maid of Honor who can help you, wedding coordinators do this every weekend.  You’ll only do it once.  They know the ins and outs, what works and what doesn’t.  What sounds good in theory, may not work at all for your wedding. Nothing replaces the ability of having your own personal event director/producer on your side to make sure that your vision happens while you’re enjoying your day.

 

Stepping off my rhinestone soapbox in the Ambertina Louboutins…

P.S.– Keeping in mind what I just described about what the weeks prior to your wedding could entail production-wise, beware of $200 “wedding coordinators” or “free” wedding venue coordinators.  You get what you pay for, luxeling.

What’s your thought?

Bridal Beauty: Sensai

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Houston: we have zero problems.

 

For the past week, I’ve been on a new regimen from Sensai, which is sure to get you HD camera ready for your wedding day!  I received samples of the SENSAI Hydrachange TInted Gel Cream ($78) which is DIVINE.  I have always been a fan of tinted moisturizers for their lightweight, dewy finish that they produce.  This is especially perfect for destination weddings in our area (especially St. Simons Island and Jekyll Island), where there is a tremendous amount of humidity.  It balances the skin’s natural hydration levels and color without streaking, melting or crumbling while providing the coverage you need.  I had been working on my complexion for a while and had a few breakouts, but I think this is perfect for clear complexions or those with minor imperfections that can be camoflauged with light applications of concealer.  I have yellow undertones, so the Almond shade was absolutely perfect when it blended in.  It will be available in April 2011, so that is right around the corner.

 

sensai-lifting-radiance-3d-maskFor an extra pamper treatment or a gift for your bridesmaids, try the SENSAI Lifting Radiance 3D Mask ($165). I’ve been to many spas and enjoyed many treatments.  I could not believe I was in my own house when I spread this luxurious mask across my face.  First, it was heavenly scented and drenched in emollients.  For 20 minutes I was transported and forgot that I was in my bedroom with the fabutots playing at my feet.  When my time was up, my face was soft, supple and glowing.  I’m a definite fan.  I thought that the mask would tear and would be really fragile since it is fairly thin and soaked in the moisturizers.  However, it was surprisingly tear resistant and strong!

 

The guys aren’t left out either;   to get your groom ready for the wedding day or even as a

hommage preshave oil groom groomsmen gift for wedding

gift during the honeymoon:  select the Hommage Pre-Shave Oil ($60) for a nick-free, perfectly smooth shave which is made from a patented formula blend of rare white truffle extract.  A new innovation are the Styptic Match Books ($50)– a touch of the match tip will immediately stop any shaving mishaps, especially if he didn’t use the Pre-Shave Oil.

 

 

Move Over Barbie, it’s Ken’s Turn to Party

 

Just like every little girl was always obsessed with Barbie, she was equally obsessed with Barbie’s man, Ken.  So naturally, I adored the Ken party thrown during last month’s Fashion Week.  Mattel threw a gorgeous party at Christie’s which was called “Celebrating Ken:  Fashion, Art, and the Ultimate Dream Date”, which featured six of menswear’s sexiest and sleekest designers like Simon Spur, Billy Reid and Michael Bastian and some delicious male models in various scenarios.

 

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Guests were treated to chocolate Ken Dolls and pink Barbie themed cupcakes by Magnolia Bakery from “life-sized Kens”.

 

Rant: The Truth About Shoots + Blogs

I’ve noticed a lot of talk: be it backlash, adoration or fervor about shoots, inspiration boards and the like in the wedding blogosphere.  Mrs. Avocado over at Wedding Bee gave her take on it in her great post “Moment Junkie”.  Reading the comments on her post and elsewhere, I noticed a lot of brides feeling intimidated, inspired, frustrated, etc.  One bride even likened the “wedding porn” being like the regular, in that it leaves “normal” weddings feeling inadequate.

Since I always have something to say, here it is:

 

Remix of Death of the Photoshoot pending…

When the styled shoots first came onto the scene, they came in breaking the door down and in vast numbers. I started to feel like Jay-Z with his D.O.A. (Death of Autotune) anthem. They (shoots) were running rampant and dominating all the blogs.  It was like—“Okay, shoots are great, but they shouldn’t be the sole content of every wedding blog or vendor portfolio.” (FYI, I tried to contact Jigga for a remix: Death of the Photo shoot, but I am sure my calls were erroneously overlooked).  At any rate, I felt like Jay-Z:  a beautiful event can stand on it’s own without the excessive styling.  A beautiful event is full of details, but it’s also full of moments and memories.

BUT…

A styled shoot isn’t there to capture memories or moments.  It’s there to capture style.  Evoke inspiration.  Styled shoots are a necessity.  You may not like it, but life isn’t all puppies and rainbows, luxeling. 

Case in point:

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Yes, these are practically insane. Short of Lady Gaga, I am not sure of anyone who would wear this willingly in public.  But this doesn’t stop designers from creating them.  It is an extension of their art; a way to express their creativity.  Even some of the less shocking, but still ill-matched runway looks, I have seen on the red carpet paired with other clothing items and they look STUNNING.   

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Take these editorials from Vogue.  These looks are meant to inspire you and serve as a form of expression.  No one really expects anyone to do this in real life.  Again, it’s just bits and pieces.  So, comparing your wedding with that of a styled shoot that has comped linens and flowers is dangerous for your health. This is especially the case if you are DIYing several aspects of your wedding and you are less than crafty or not a professional.  Also, as many people have pointed out, the shoots occur in a controlled environment…but it’s supposed to.  It’s a shoot.  Although truth be told, I’d like to see some of these styled shoots “gifted” to small weddings so that it can be documented realistically. But that’s a post for another day. 

I totally get that it’s about the moments and the memories.  But it’s not all about that. Anyone who tells you different is a liar.  Like the quote from the movie says “That’s just what the pretty girls say to make the ugly girls feel better”.  It’s about both. It’s about creating an experience that will foster the moments and the memories. Truth be told, the memories and moments will come anyway…but the backdrop? Priceless.  It’s just like the movies—Avatar had a great, but basic story line.  But without the backdrop and special effects, it was basically Dances with Wolves. 

The key is to check for the following with any inspiration board or photo shoot:

  • Content:  All of the pictures should be visually aesthetic and flow together so that you can see the shape of the event through the images.
  • Context:  Not all inspiration is visual; this is why all of our event vision boards have a story line or explanation for why certain things were chosen or suggested.  Details are great.  Ridiculously great.  And they can inspire other details.  Even fashion mags are great about inspiring you and informing/educating you:

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  • Comparability: Make sure that you are comparing apples to apples when looking to establish your theme based on an inspiration board and/or shoot. You want to make sure your ideas will work with your venue, tables, and space. 
  • Cost:  One thing I am noticing with brides is the sticker shock of what it takes to create “the pretty”.  Just like with fashion shoots or boards, you may not be able to afford everything in the spread, but you may be able to afford a few statement pieces.  You could also check out discount retailers (i.e., Ross, TJ Maxx, Marshalls, etc.) for brand name products or similar items.  Even stores like Z Gallerie or Pier One for eclectic mixes.  Even if your budget is cost-conscious, opt for really nice, quality pieces—even if they are small.  It is far better than large, cheap pieces that leave something to be desired.   

So shoots…take it as a grain of salt.  I hear people screaming for transparency. Ok, fine.  But in the grand scheme of things, does it really matter?  Whether it was styled or a real wedding, it was still someone’s collective creative genius at work.  I totally get the whole “controlled environment” thing. But to be honest, honey, Murphy’s Law applies to weddings, too. I could produce the same wedding at the same place, on different days and different elements would come into play.  So, for me, this is a non-issue.  For sites like Style Me Pretty and Ruffled, I view those as “editorial” sites and blogs written by wedding professionals as “documentary” sites.  To simplify:  It’s like the difference between Law and Order and Court TV.  Some are for dramatization, others are for reality.  I do agree, that if a wedding professional publishes a shoot to their site or blog, it should be clearly designated as such (Just like a singer would never sell a studio album and label it or allude to it being a “live” album).  At any rate,  I’ve noticed that styled shoots are so prevalent that the distinction has been “Real Wedding” in the title, rather than “Styled Shoot”.

 

So what, if anything, is my beef with the styled shoot?

I’m tired of seeing the same thing over and over again.  I’m tired of the groom pulling up his pants so I can see his argyle socks.  I’m tired seeing bowties, glasses and fake moustaches. I’m tired of rustic weddings set in fields and barns.  I’m tired of a mish mash of “eclectic” mixes from thrift stores piled together against trees and called vintage.  Don’t get me wrong, these were great.  The first 600 times. Now it’s redundant and borderline annoying (Hey…keep it real).  I’m not against these things…I (and am sure you do too) I’m just tired of seeing them.  I don’t think they apply to every bride and I am quite sure that all brides would like to see shoots reflective of their tastes (just an obvious hint to the inspiration blogs). 

 

Just my take.  What do you think?

 

 

*Garnish*:   Want photo shoots done right?  Check out Candice Coppola’s blog; she styles shoots and also events. So she knows how it works. 

See Terrica in Golden Isles Magazine at the Ocean Lodge

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Photo by Chris Moncus Photography

Some people love their jobs because it instills a  greater purpose or some philanthropic ideal.  I think that’s great.

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I love my job because I get to dress up, handed a martini and laugh with co-workers for a magazine spread. Trust me, that’s great, too.

The above photo is from the Swinging Summit feature in Golden Isles Magazine’s January/February issue (p. 49) on the area’s local wedding professionals.  It was an ode to the Oceans 11-Frank Sinatra Rat Pack era and was absolute, unadulterated fun!  At the second shoot, I was able to clink it up with other female wedding pros—the culinary creative Laura Justice of Tasteful Temptations Catering and uber-sweet photographer Sarah DeShaw at the gorgeous Ocean Lodge. Somehow, it looks like I played the femme fatale, but you know what they say about life imitating art, yes?

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If you’d like to hear more about the wonderful wedding photographers, caterers, DJs, and wedding planners in the St. Simons and Jekyll Island area, definitely check the article out.  It’s a great read with insight into our creative minds and collaborative dynamic of working together as a cohesive unit.

We Likey: Lilibon

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I have been captivated by the new collections of Lilibon!   Similar to bathing suits from the era of pinup girls and coquettish women, the flirty nature of the Lilibon collection is expressed through the very soft and unique material, hand picked by the designer. The whole collection is made from lycra lace, which allows the swimwear to be simultaneously durable and flirty. The fabric itself comes from a well-established french manufacturer, and the pattern was inspired by lingerie of the 1940’s.

Each style in the collection is cut to flatter women of all body types and personalities. Lilibon’s swimsuits reflect the same sentiments as a woman’s lingerie, sexy, flattering and a well kept secret, except now everyone can appreciate it.

 

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More beautiful pieces from the new black collection debuts this month!  If you love what you’ve seen—feel free to visit their shop and get your sleek on for your honeymoon or next vacay!

We Likey: VOGA wine

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We were sent a sample VOGA Italia’s pinot grigio recently and were completely enamored!

 

First, the sleek bottle within itself is a work of art;  the new sparkling pinot grigio is quite possibly its only rival in style (I adored the fact both come with a cork, despite the non-traditional packaging).  I typically enjoy sweeter wines and cocktails, so I was eager to try something fresh and new.  VOGA has made me a fan of pinot grigio!  It’s a dry wine, but had woody undertones, with citrus and apple flavors which I found most pleasant.  I always save my introductory sample to test over a course of days to ensure that I can get the most out of the spirit.  The first night, I enjoyed it chilled with grilled tilapia and it was a perfect complement. The next night, I had a chilled glass with some fruit and cheese while I vegged out during the Top Chef marathon.  It was just as good.

 

I am very excited to say I am a fan! The wine is not cost intensive; ranging from $10-$14 a bottle it is affordable to try or give as a gift. My sister and I frequently discuss new wines we’ve tried in the span of time since our previous visit.  This has earned itself a bow and shipping charges for her to enjoy, too. 

 

Many glass clinks to Voga—for great wine and great packaging!

25 Things You Don’t Know About Me :: Terrica Skaggs

fightI was perusing the US Magazine site for my daily nutritional requirement of glam and gossip, when I stumbled upon a few celebrities still keeping the “25 Things…” survey going strong, so I figured…what the heck?

  1. My first and middle names are a combination of my father, grandmother and grandfather’s names.
  2. My talent in the Miss America local pageants in college was singing???my favorite song to do was Mariah Carey’s “Emotions’” (with the high notes!)
  3. I have never had nor have I been in a wedding.
  4. I own an original copy of Gone With the Wind.
  5. I had blue eyes up until the age of 2.
  6. Turkey legs seriously freak me out.  They just look so unnatural.
  7. Due to a bad infection as a child, I had to get all of my hair cut off at the age of 8.  Explains my love of hair now 🙂
  8. I went to an all girls Catholic high school.
  9. I have an deep love for mixed martial arts. 
  10. I am a true romantic.
  11. I like to quote movies with family and friends while bursting into extreme laughter.
  12. My first tattoo took 5.5 hrs.  It is of Shadow, a female ninja assassin from Eternal Champions, a video game I used to play as a kid.
  13. I’m actually very quiet and enjoy being alone when I’m not “on”.
  14. I eat hot sauce on my eggs. 
  15. I just bought my first pair of flats this year.  For serious.
  16. I love to cook.
  17. I cannot stand to hear or see any one eat with their mouths open.
  18. I will murder any plant.  Flowers, I’m good. Plants?  It’s a 187.
  19. I kiss my fingers and touch my visor when I go through yellow lights. 
  20. I am a Law & Order addict.
  21. I love taking my children to anything related to Disney.
  22. As a child, I used to win at chess and backgammon with my father (who taught me), and now I cannot remember how to play either.
  23. I used to play the clarinet.
  24. I adore period pieces and old movies.
  25. No matter where I am, people say I have an accent. I never hear it.

 

 

So tell me about you! Leave a comment with something I wouldn’t know about you or link to this post and do your own.  I love learning more about my readers!

My Holiday Favorites

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HOLIDAY TIME!

With Christmas and New Years right around the corner—literally, I wanted to share my favorites for great, festive holiday happenings.  While you can enjoy many of these any time, they take special precedence during the holidays when everyone is feeling happy, generous and ready to party. 

Great Food:  Nothing brings family and friends together like good food.  Go beyond the usual dips and finger foods and play up some traditional favorite flavors.  Above is prosciutto wrapped fig, which is absolutely delicious.  These festive baked potato bites make for great presentation and pleasing mouthfuls, enjoy a whiskey cheese fondue or scallops with potato pancakes and caviar sauce.

Great Drinks: I love the Kahlua Café “hot chocolate” adult beverage (as my BFF Jason calls them).  Topped with whipped cream, cinnamon sticks and sprinkled with nutmeg.  Another delicious treat is Trinidad punch from 1869: Chocolate, coconut milk and rum make a special holiday drink. If you would like to get whimsical, try these gingerbread martini jelly shots in the forms of mini bundt cakes (tres adorable!). I do believe my ultimate holiday favorite is the spiced cranberry martini.

Great Décor:  Make your house festive with charming décor—change it up every year.  We have a white Christmas tree, so each year, we’ll alternate different color ornaments (this year, it’s sapphire blue and silver).  We also buy a single ornament reflective of everyone’s personality each year—it makes our tree so much more personal and intimate.  Buy a few crafts and have friends over to make their own to put on your tree or add décor to your home. 

Great Music:  Nothing starts any party like good music. I love Mariah Carey’s Christmas albums, both Merry Christmas and Merry Christmas II You, but also love Christmas tunes crooned by Frank Sinatra, Eartha Kitt, Etta James, and Nat “King” Cole.  Who doesn’t love singing around the Christmas Tree?

Great Fire:   The focal point of any holiday gathering besides the tree is the fire (enter the chestnuts roasting…).  A good fire offers warmth and entertainment, feeding into all of the senses.  If you don’t have a fireplace, opt for a fire pit for outdoor décor and warmth.  Fires also make for good cuddling 🙂

 

These are just a few of my staples for my upcoming holiday entertaining—what are yours?