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Motivational Arsonist!

I’ll be back to my regularly scheduled wedding blogging programming this week, but wanted to share another inspirational vitamin with you.

My husband and I were out eating recently, and I was telling him how very blessed and grateful I was to have some of the new people in my life. They came at just the right time, and for the right reasons.  Many have touched me professionally, but some have helped transcend my level of awareness both professionally and personally.  Precious has been such a dear friend to me– a confidant, sister, sounding board, and giggle partner.  Mattie shares my fetish or everything fabulous and is the sister that I need to tell me when I’m wrong, but back me up in a fight when I’m right.  Liene, as I was telling my husband, is a Godsend, because I truly believe that she was my business’ guardian angel (and my twin sister).  Everything I needed to hear came from her mouth, and I listened, and it worked.   Scarlett, has been my personal guardian angel without even knowing it. Because of her, my spiritual relationship with Christ and others has gone to a depth for the better and I owe everyone listed so much for their contributions….whether they know they have touched my life or not.

As our conversation went on, a lot of my present hit me and it was quite a breathtaking moment. Everything I do is for my children.  I want to be the type of woman I want my daughter to be, the type of woman I want my sons to marry, and to achieve things and work hard in life to show my children that anything is possible.  And it is, but the woman today is a piece of the people listed above, and others as well.  I reminisced with my husband how when I started my business, back when it was Once Upon Your Wedding,  how hard it was to stay motivated in this industry.  Just when you think you’ve carved out your niche, you find someone else with the same idea or has stolen your idea. Or, when first getting started you run in to major roadblocks and unsupportive (and I’ll say it) downright catty and ignorant people.  Some were less than gracious to me when I got started, and if I didn’t see my vision for myself and was committed to seeing my business off to a soaring start, I would’ve quit.  But that ain’t the Terrica you’ve grown to know and love.

I realize every day how very important it is to help someone with their dream.  I have a few people who read the blog that email to ask me about getting started, and I can’t wait to return the favor to them as many have favored and honored me with their experiences.  Some people are doused in gasoline, some people are soaked in water.  So when you light that spark under them, sometimes they blaze and others just fizzle out.  That’s ok, what matters is that you took your time…you shared yourself, your knowledge and your love.  And just know that when  that one person’s fire is blazing, a piece of your own fire blazes with it, and others will want get a piece of that fire too.  None of us have cornered the market on anything in life– someone will always build a bigger and better mousetrap.  But when you take the time to help the next guy, a piece of you lives on– a piece of you enjoys that success with them.  And in turn, they will remember that and teach someone else.  Before you know it, there will be less and less people who are getting started (in this industry and in any industry, for that matter), that will say “When I got started, people were real jerks to me”. Instead, they will say, “I will be glad to help you, because when I got started, someone else helped me”.

I dare you to ignite someone’s flame this week.  Share your passion, share your fire, share yourself.

Each one, teach one.

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  • Thank you for that. I’ve had more than my fair share of haters, and it’s encouraging to know that you can still come out on top! Luv ya as always T!

    April 13, 2008 at 10:15 pm
  • What a timely post. I was contacted last week by a young lady in my area who is very interested in being a planner. She and I are having coffee sometime soon to talk about the industry. She knew that not all planners would be as open to the idea as I am being. What God has for me, no one can take away from me, no matter what! I am not afraid of sharing of myself. If God shares Himself DAILY with me, how can I then be selfish with what He as given me?!

    April 13, 2008 at 10:35 pm
  • Thank you Terrica! You have been such a blessing in my life as well. In so many ways. I’m not a very vocal person, but I wouldn’t dare try. Our bond is something that I can’t began to put into words. It’s funny that you should touch on this topic. I sent an email to a local coordinator that’s expressed a desire for help this morning. Just as you have been there to keep me going, I intend to return to blessing to others. Thank you for being all that you are. You’re a great wife, a great mother, a great friend… You know the old saying. People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Here’s to a lifetime [cheers]!

    April 13, 2008 at 11:17 pm
  • xxox.

    April 13, 2008 at 11:23 pm
  • Wow! Just this weekend I was out and ran into someone who was considering starting her own business. In the 20 minutes we chatted, I gave her as much advice as I could. I then went home and told my husband how great it felt to offer someone all that information, as I wish I had someone do the same for me.

    April 14, 2008 at 8:26 am
  • Thank you so much for this post Terrica and for all YOUR support and encouragement. Before I found your blog, my fire had begun to get smaller and my goal of starting my own planning business began to fade. But you and all of the wonderful people I have learned about through your blog have been like lighting in my heart. Many of your very own quotes have kept me going on a day to day basis during these past 2 weeks of recommitment to myself and my business (which is also a commitment I made to God and my Family). Almost daily, I say to myself, “Self…YOU CAN DO THIS…DON’T GIVE UP ME.” Thank you.

    April 14, 2008 at 9:16 am
  • Bravo Terrica! What a great post. I too have come across some less than helpful planners since joining the industry. However, recently, I’ve been blessed to meet some wonderful, encouraging planners and we help each other by sharing our experiences and opinions. To me, it’s a win-win for all of us. We encourage each other to step up our game and shine like the fabulous ladies we really are.

    Again, thanks for this post!

    April 14, 2008 at 9:24 am
  • Oh my goodness. I think I’m gonna cry.

    Terrica, you never seize to amaze me!

    April 14, 2008 at 3:46 pm
  • Terrica you have done it again!! Fabulous post and very inspirational.. I really wish we lived close, I would love to sit down with you over a glass of wine. I feel like I already know you, just from reading your Amazing blog!! THANKS FOR BEING SO FABULOUS!!

    April 14, 2008 at 5:29 pm
  • That was such a heartfelt post. So inspirational and true. Loves it!

    P.S. Tag!

    April 15, 2008 at 8:25 am
  • Ce


    Lovely post!

    April 15, 2008 at 10:34 pm
  • Thanks for sharing this with us! It was definitely on time! Be fabulously blessed!

    April 16, 2008 at 10:02 pm
  • Thank you for an inspiring post. I’ve been in the business for less than a year and was told by everybody that no consultant would give a newbie the time of day and it was all very competitive. I decided that if anyone came to me for help I would take the time to talk to them. I’m a firm believer in Liene’s Wisdom of Sharing post.

    April 17, 2008 at 12:42 pm
  • Hi Terrica,
    I’m so glad I read your lovely post today. Your encouraging words and words of truth are indeed inspiring! Although not a planner, I’m a new blogger wanting to “get it right” for all the right reasons. I would love for you to visit and share your light!

    April 17, 2008 at 4:08 pm
  • Mattie


    Right back at you, Sis! I’m honored to have you as a friend – and the little sister (nope. not gonna say “younger”) my parents never let me have. 😀 Smooches!

    April 20, 2008 at 10:08 pm
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