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More Lies: “Ssshhhh….Don’t Tell Them It’s A Wedding!”

Somebody’s going to be mad.

I’ve heard it all at this point.  There are a lot of “arrognorant” (the lethal mix of arrogance and ignorance plaguing the world) advice going around now that it is wedding season.  Once again, I feel it is prevalent because of the horrible economic tides we are trying to tame as well as the overall lack of public trust in any practically any business (Thanks, AIG, Freddie, Fannie, Madoff and countless others!  You’re a swell bunch).

What’s (the lie) going around now is that it’s smarter to tell your vendors that you are planning a “big party!”  rather than a wedding, because everyone knows that entertainment/event vendors are out to rip everyone off the minute they say “The W word”.  So to combat that, and to make sure you protect what’s left of your 401K, you decide to lie to everyone.

It’s like going to the doctor, tell the staff that you have a terrible stomach ache.  Once you’ve been whisked back into the doctor’s examining room, you reveal “Just kidding. I’m really pregnant and in labor right now. I know when you guys hear the word ‘maternity’,  the prices double”.

Great way to start a relationship. (That was sarcasm)

Trust is a two way street.   Your wedding vendors are trusting that you will pay them on time.  So that, in turn, they can pay their staff, mortgages and gas and electric bills on time. They are also trusting that you will keep your date and follow-through with an actual event.  More likely than not,they have turned down other events so that they could show you exemplary client service and attention.  When you lie to them from the beginning (because they will find out that it’s an actual wedding, and not some “big party”), they have no incentive to trust you, let alone like you.  It will make your vendor feel as if you questioned their integrity without communicating any concerns, and decided to deceive them for your own benefit (a little pot calling the kettle black, eh?).

In case this piece of info isn’t printed in anyone’s wedding magazine or allowed to run rampant on a wedding message board, I’ll say it here:  wedding vendors are a tight community. If you feel the need to try to get over on any of your wedding vendors with lies and deception, you had better believe that other wedding vendors will hear about it, too.  It could  make it a lot harder for you to find other vendors that will want to work with you once they have heard about your antics.   A wedding is not just a big party.  It’s your wedding. Don’t take anything away from that by calling it something that it isn’t. If it were really just “one big party”, then why not go to the courthouse and rock out at Chuck E. Cheese?  There very well may be some unscrupulous vendors out there who mark their prices up because it’s a wedding, and some may feel warranted in doing so due to the expectations and other details they will have to deal with.   For the rest of us that run our businesses honestly, we have set our prices for the amount of work we do.  As a wedding planner, it is my job to make sure that brides and grooms get what they are looking for and that any wedding day related charges are services are legitimate.  If you run into several mark ups with venues or vendors that you have dreamt of using, it may be time to find vendors you can actually afford to use. If you find someone who is less than honest about their fees—do not book them!

But remember, a stomach ache is not the same thing as being in labor 😉

I’m sure my other wedding planner and vendor friends will be able to offer so much more insight, so let’s keep the conversation going.

:: Photo ~ Bjorn de Leeuw ::

Event Vision 101: Personality

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Finding your event’s personality is crucial.  I no longer like to say the term “theme” because it’s a bit antiquated and can be a bit stifling.  However, just like a theme, having more than one at your event can be confusing and distracting.  No good ever came out of anything with multiple personalities—this includes your wedding.  Your  event’s personality could be inspired by color, a location, a jewel, an era, or even food!  How does it make you feel when you think of it?  What does it make you want to do the second the thought of it enters your mind?  In other words, if your event were a person, who would it be?  How would it smell?  What would it look like?  How would it feel? 

Starting off with very basic questions in the beginning of your planning process can be helpful to get you to discover facets of your design that you hadn’t originally considered. Also, asking them halfway through your planning allows you to make sure you are staying on track and can steer away from an event vision exorcism. 

Ask yourself—if your long lost friend had missed your wedding, how would you describe it to them?  What would you create that would be the most memorable for you, as well as your guests?  Could you sum up your event vision in just five words?  What words or feelings would then stem from that? 

 

You will find that your event’s personality is born right before your eyes.

Event :: I’m Getting Hitched :: March 19, 2009

Maria from Ritzy Bee is teaming up with other excellent wedding pros like Anne Chertoff and other DC Vendors for the I’m Getting Hitched event.

From Maria’s blog:

Now that you’ve said “I will”…come meet, mingle and hear wedding expert Anne Chertoff and the best of DC’s wedding vendors give you inside tips and advice on getting organized and planning to say “I do”!

Get inspired with event décor, sample cocktails & decadent sweets, win fabulous raffle prizes and take home a wonderful assortment of goodies too

Featuring: Hitched Salon, Design Cuisine, Ritzy Bee Events, Kate Headley Photography, Humanstory Films, K. Rose Cakes, Laura Hooper Calligraphy and more…

When: Thursday, March 19, 2009 6 pm – 8 pm

Where: Hitched Salon {located in Georgetown} 1523 Wisconsin Ave, NW Washington, DC 2007

Register: The event is complimentary and you must register to attend. Space is very limited and open to brides + 1 guest only.

Please RSVP early to: fromiwilltoido@gmail.com with your first & last name, wedding date, email, phone, mailing address and guest’s name

Questions: Please email info@ritzybee.com

{Fabulous map and calligraphy by Laura Hooper Calligraphy!}

We can’t wait to see you there!

Welcome to FABULUXE!

375528reg.jpgWhy, hello there!

Welcome to our new home! And this, my friends, was my great surprise!

Once Upon Your Wedding is now Fabuluxe Events, Inc., a full service event planning firm. Additionally, we have extended our service area to Savannah, Georgia and Jacksonville, Florida. Of course, we will still service our fabulous home town of the Golden Isles– St. Simons, Jekyll Island and Sea Island. Now, we can offer more as we expand in to other social and corporate events.

So there it is!

Ta da!

Everything is where you left it! Same categories, posts, etc.

Welcome home!

Karl Lagerfeld Knows How To Party!

“Arch your back!” he yelled, slamming his foot on the floor.

Done.

“Now, stick out your hip”

Done.

Sighing, he says ” Ok, flex your abs, elongate your torso”

Done. I felt like I was in a body cast.

“Now, take your first step…cross your feet. Don’t look at the floor! No! No! No!”

That was a scene from my late night sessions with my agent, Christian with Nova Models. I loved my sessions with Christian and Michael because I learned so much. But squeezing your butt cheeks so that they can hold a dime while walking is not something I can put on a resume. So, you can imagine my utter shock and amazement with Lagerfeld’s models did a show on the Great Wall of China in stiletto heels. MY GOD.

The Lagerfeld/Fendi show from all accounts, was amazing. I mean really– the man put on a show on one of the 7 wonders of the world. (guests were advised to wear flats because of the steep elevation…hardly any did. Gotta love fashion! I broke my neck, but dammit, look at my shoes!) I love him!

Karl’s line was amazing– 88 looks, including a mini collection that served as a tribute to the host city itself, were very simple in color but the cut and design were tres luxe.

               

Then the gorgeous Du Juan came out in the pièce de résistance a gorgeous black empress styled cheongsam gown. BEAUTIFUL! As Liene has told us several times, if you want to see the trends in wedding “culture”, you should follow the trends in fashion.  Just look at this black and white wedding dress.   I’ve seen it all that I think are going to be big hits– from the baroque gilded makeup cases from M.A.C., the jewel tones by Sephora to these simple black and white elements with a dash of red to make it HOT….I think we will see these next year.

Each guest was given fur handwarmers and sat on heated seats. Hint hint to those of you who want chilly outdoor weddings. After the show, Karl had his guests given stylish hot chocolate or brandy. (What would you pick?) He then bused his guests to the Beijing Mall For the party, he enlisted the help of a laser graffiti artist and dancer.

Aahhh the life.

Oh and Christian, I still think you’re the best– especially since you never made me do a show on the Great Wall of China in stilettos.