Who’s in Your Five?
We all remember seeing the hilarious commercials with Charles Barkley or they characters from Psych discussing who was in their “Five”. You know, your “go-to-people” when you need something or talk to the most. Who’s in your five of your Bridal Faves? Is it your mom? Your Maid of Honor? Best friend from college? Who is it that you can call on and is actually happy to talk about your wedding or go to fittings and hair trials with you?
Having a bridal support system is a two part system that is based on honor and respect. Your family and friends will have to honor their promises to get things done when you need them (run errands, get fitted for dresses, show up on time, etc.) and also respect that this is an important, once-in-a-lifetime event for you. So, while things may get crazy, it’s crazy for a good reason and it’s better to support and help you than to thrash you or fall through.
You have to honor the wishes and feelings of those that are there listening to you, helping you stuff envelopes, and buy expensive clothing or travel great distances. For example, if a bridesmaid (or several) say that a color or cut of dress is not flattering on them– do you honor this, compromise or kick them out of your bridal party? You must also take time to respect that your bridal faves do have lives too– they can’t be at your every beck and call to handle every wedding task or listen to every emotional hangnail that you have about your wedding. In fact, one way to show your mutual respect is to inquire about their lives as well and not make everything about your wedding.
Cherish your bridal faves– they will be the ones that make the process all the more sweeter.